New beginnings
Today is going to be a great day because I want it to be.
I meet you to see if we can reinstate our friendship and we are one step in the right direction. And that is great. And that is really all there is to it.
As J said ” Don’t feel vulnerable and start comparing yourself to his girlfriend. You are who you are. Just you. ” Yes, I know and I have realised that it is silly to be feeling inferior or compare myself to her.
The point is I haven’t been a part of his life for so long and she is. All the “What if”s are really pointless cos the fact is I was out of his life and he probably can’t give me any answers cos things didn’t happen that way. I just wasn’t there. So, what answers could he have given me? End of story. Period.
This time round, I feel like I can really move on. We won’t go back to our past but we can start building a new friendship. And that is really all that I am asking for.
how do you get over someone? how do you remain friends? i’m finding it kinda hard.
Quitacet,
I have no answers for you. Frankly, it took me a very long time and I am hardly the best person to dish out advice here.
All I can say is, it is good to tell the other party how you feel. Telling the person how you feel exactly may not change anything but it will make it easier for you to move on. Where the relationship heads after that, depends on the 2 of you. Don’t leave any “what if”s in your mind.
But, if you think you are finding hard to face the person now, don’t force it. Give yourself time.