Letting go takes love


To let go does not mean to stop caring,
   it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
   it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
   but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
   the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
   it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
   but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
   but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
   but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
   but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
   it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
   but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
   but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
   but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
   but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
   but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more
      Remember: The time to love is short
 —— author unknown

Probably takes a saint to do this. But, it is a good reminder of all the things that I should learn to let go. Makes life alot easier if I do. Alot happier and more carefree too.

This poem reminds me of a workshop I have attended. In this workshop among many strangers, I learnt that one of my greatest failings is I have problem letting go of the fact that I always have to be right. I have always been rather obstinate in my own ways. Everyone around me know how stubborn I can be once I make up my mind about something or once I formed an opinion about someone or something. It is hard to sway me because I hold on firmly to the conviction that I know I am right. It is frustrating for the people around me because I may not debate the point with you since I think intellectual debates are pointless. I simply radiate the attitude of “So, we hold different views. That is alright. We do not have to agree. But, in my mind, I STILL think I am right.” This frustrates the people around me since they have no opportunity of making me see their points or any hope of me adopting their perspectives. I have mellowed alot over the years. I have learnt that there are many instances in life where it does not matter who is right or wrong. That it is just a differences of perspectives. We are all right in our own ways. That it is often impossible to just draw a clear cut line between right and wrong. But, in many instances, I still have problem letting go of my need to be right. This may be a good area to start working on in the “Letting go” dept.  


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